Life is busy and hectic.  You have your spend a big chunk of your time at work, make time for your family and friends, work out to stay fit, and shop for food, clothing, and incidentals.   Also, don’t forget the time to sleep!  Where is finding a serious romantic relationship on that list?   Is it on the bottom of yours?

I am amazed at how many people I talk to who don’t really make time for meeting the right one.  They are so busy with everything else even when they express that they would like to meet someone special.  Something just does not compute!

Finding time to go online and communicate with people or to get out to events and activities where you would be meeting a good number of singles takes a lot of time and effort.  Are you setting aside time to find a serious, romantic relationship and making it a priority in your life?

It is really sad when my clients come to me and they are over 45 years old and have realized they have missed the chance to have their own biological baby.  What they have told me is that they just hoped they would meet someone by now and they never really put any focus or energy into finding a serious, romantic relationship.   It’s as if they expected Mr. Wonderful to drop out of the sky and land on their lap.

Jane is a 47 year old professional woman who was busy with her career and hadn’t put any effort into dating.  At this point in her life, she has also gained 25 pounds and doesn’t feel so good about herself.  She regrets not putting more focus earlier on the romantic part of her personal life and not having the opportunity to have her own children.  Through the coaching, Jane shifted her expectations around what her family would look like.  She is now more willing to date divorced dads and men open to adoption.

I recommend you look at where you spend the majority of your time during the week by keeping track of how you are spending your time for a couple of weeks in a journal.  How much time do you want to plan to spend on dating activities?  I also suggest you schedule your time for dating activities and put it on your calendar.  Stick to it like you would stick to your appointment with your personal trainer.  And find a way to keep yourself accountable to making the time for your dating efforts.

When you free up the space (and time) for a relationship in your life, then you will be surprised about the opportunities that will open up to you for meeting that special romantic partner.