My Journey


Hi, I'm Amy Schoen and I understand how it feels to be single in a couples' world.

I was in exactly the same situation.

Back when I was in my mid 20s, I was married to my first husband.

After a decade of being happily married, I began talking about children and our future.

I thought I'd have a family by my mid-30s.

Unfortunately, to my surprise, I didn't know he didn't want to have children because we never discussed having kids prior to our engagement.

Worse, he actually knew he didn't want to have children with me and kept this to himself.

He started looking for a way out.

I never noticed we were drifting apart. I was caught with my head in the sand. When he told me he was taking a great career opportunity in another state, he told me that going long-distance was for a short while and we'd be okay. He always talked like he was coming back and I was clueless about his real plans. (That didn't include me!)

I believed him.

But it never got better and eventually, I found out he was cheating on me.

I tried to find a way to get us back and even suggested couples counseling. It was then he told me he was not going to give up the woman and he had no intention of coming back home for good.

I was devastated. I couldn't even imagine him hurting me. And yet, there I was. Adrift in my mid-30s without a family, or children and going through a divorce.


And I had no idea how to pick up the pieces.

At the time, I had no clue what went wrong. What I couldn't see at the time was that we were totally wrong for each other from day one.

Years later, I understood we should have never gotten married in the first place.

Not only were our life goals different; our core values weren't aligned.

Once I was able to pick up the pieces, understand how I got to this place, and look to the future……

I, Amy Schoen, became the poster girl for Motivated To Marry.

  • I had plenty of dates but nothing leading to lasting and true love
  • I had a thriving upscale boutique, wardrobe and clothing consulting business, and a business education
  • I had a wonderful group of close friends and an active social life.

But my love life was a wreck.

I hired a dating coach shortly after I turned 40.

With his direction, I changed the way I approached dating. My friends soon noticed I was dating with more "purpose." He also helped me see past my blind spots.

It wasn't long until I met my husband Alan when I was 41. We were engaged within 6 months and married within the year! That was in 2002.

Eventually, I got pregnant and we welcomed my son into the world.

We're still married and my son is growing into a wonderful man.

My dating journey inspired me to embark on a deep learning journey. I set out to learn how to coach people like me.


I became a certified Life Coach through the Coaches Training Institute (now Co-Active Training Institute).

Soon after, I completed Relationship Systems training with the Center for the Right Relationship.

I began coaching in 2004 and Motivated To Marry Coaching was born.

Now, I help people like you to succeed in your personal life and dating journey.


Outside of my family, nothing in life gives me greater joy.

I'd love to help you write YOUR success story.

I've helped dozens of clients find committed relationships.

It all starts with getting on a call and connecting with one another.

So let's connect!

During your complimentary "Meet Your Mate Strategy Session," we'll talk about your dating experience until now and get really clear on what you need to do to achieve your relationship goals. After that we'll discuss your goals for dating.

If we both agree we're a good fit, we'll talk about how I can best support you in finding the love you deserve.