It’s all good on paper. It even looks good to everyone around you. But something — something — just isn’t right. Are you crazy? Too picky? Self-sabotaging? Should you be finding a way to make it work? Or do you need help knowing when to move on from a relationship?

I see it all the time with my clients. They meet someone they’re attracted to and with whom they have lots of chemistry.

Before and after of a man in a bad relationship and then a good one.

And yet, something’s not right.

It’s like a typical episode of Say Yes to the Dress. There’s always a dress that the bride “thought” was everything she wanted. But, when asked how she feels in it, her response is a bland, shoulder-shrugging “Meh.” 

It’s pretty. Designer. Uber-expensive. But she’s just not feeling it. 

The bride-to-be heads back to the dressing room and emerges in a different dress a dress destined to be “the one.” She gets teary-eyed, and, the second the veil goes on and the bride-to-be turns around, her entourage melts into oohs and aahs.

She had to feel it. She knew she would know when she had found the right one.

But here’s the tricky part:

Sometimes it’s easier to know when you’ve found “the one” than it is to know when a partner isn’t “the one.” And, if you don’t know when to move on from a relationship that’s not right for you, you could miss out on “the one.”

If you’ve been in this situation before (or you’re in it now), you know that feeling. You may not be able to put your finger on it, but it’s there, somewhere in the pit of your stomach.

Other times it’s obvious.

Whatever it is, it’s just hanging there and you’re feeling uncomfortable, as if it’s just not a natural fit.

And yet, you care for this person and there’s a lot of good there.

So what do you do?

First, you need to recognize the relationship for what it is.

Is it an “almost, not quite” relationship? It is if it gives you a nagging feeling that it simply won’t last.

It’s a quandary, for sure. And it can cause you to not trust yourself. I’ve always wanted a-b-c in a partner, and he checks off all the boxes. But everything feels like x-y-z. I don’t get it. Am I just not cut out for a relationship? Why is finding true love so difficult?

Here are a few things to help you know whether to stay…or whether (and when) to move on from a relationship.

What’s the big message here?

Some things can be worked out and others really can’t. 

When you’re at a big impasse, it may be time to cut the cord and move on.

The more you can assess what’s not working and whether or not it’s fixable, the better. Knowing when to move on from a relationship will allow both of you to amicably agree that you’re not a good match. You will then be free to look elsewhere without regret or animosity.

The good news?

I’ve found that my clients ultimately select a much better partner for their next relationship.

Making the decision to end a relationship isn’t easy. It takes courage, self-respect, and the right kind of support.

Time is too valuable to stay in a relationship that won’t serve both of you in the long run. There are plenty of great people looking for love, especially now!

I’m happy to talk with you about how coaching can successfully guide you through this process and out the other side. Simply go to talkwithcoachamy.com and tell me about yourself so we can get started.

Wishing you the best in life and love,

Coach Amy

PS: Feel free to share your deal breakers and what would make you to move on from a relationship. Your comments are appreciated!

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