As the holiday season begins, this is the time to take stock of what we have in our life and what we are thankful for.  This will keep you from sliding into the hole of thinking about your “inadequacies” and what you are not. 

It is so easy to look at what other people have and compare yourself to them.  Everyone has a different set of circumstances.  I bet that some of the singles I know in the community may say, “How did she get so lucky?” about my marriage and baby.   I was among them not so long ago. However, I never gave up hope that I would have a family someday, be it from giving birth to my own baby or marrying a divorced Dad.   

I did get to the place by the time I was 40 where I was happy with who I was, the friends I had, my family (who is still alive), my wonderful cat, my town home that I adore (you can’t beat the location), my good health and challenging work.  I made the effort to come from a place of abundance and not scarcity. 

What are you grateful for in your life?  I suggest you write a list and look at it when you get a bit of down on yourself.  Actually, a Positive Psychology exercise is to write down three things you are grateful for in your life everyday.  This will keep you focused on what you do have instead of what you don’t.  Are you willing to try it? 

As a coach I help my clients focus on their wonderful qualities and on their life goals.  I do this through individual personal coaching (www.HeartmindConnection.com) and group coaching on the telephone (www.GetLoveRight.com).  Feel free to contact me for a complimentary coaching session to see how powerful coaching is.  

In the next couple of days, take some time to reflect what you are grateful for in your life and what you have accomplished this year.  It’s time to think about what you want for yourself and where you are going to put your energies for next year.   All the time, make sure you are present to the gifts you do have in your life right now. 

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family and friends. 

— Coach Amy