True love vs fake love. It’s a distinction everyone who’s been hurt by love wants to know how to make.
Knowing how to differentiate the type of love someone has for you (and the type you have for them) is an important skill when you’re a seriously searching single. It really comes down to true love vs fake love.
Imagine you’ve just met someone, and you have great rapport. You enjoy talking with one another, spend hours on the phone (or video chat), and have chemistry on your first couple of dates.
Everything seems to be going well. And your intuition is telling you to be careful not to fall too fast or too hard. You’ve been here before and you don’t want to get hurt again.
So, how do you tell the difference between true love vs fake love?
Here are some telltale signs of fake love.
- The person’s actions don’t follow their words.
They say they will meet you at a certain day or time and something always comes up. They disappoint you time and time again.
- They focus primarily on their desire.
An insincere person with their own agenda will push you to become more physically intimate sooner than you really want. They may even say, “If you love me, you’ll show me so by being more intimate.”
- They will avoid bringing you into their world.
Another way to tell that what you have isn’t true love is that your partner waits to introduce you to their family members or friends.
The boyfriend of one of my clients was reluctant to introduce her to his friends and work colleagues. She wondered why. She found out that he had no intention of getting serious and didn’t want his friends to think they were.
- They regularly make plans without considering you.
With fake love, your partner doesn’t consider your thoughts or needs when making plans. S/he makes plans and then shares them with you. They think, “Take it or leave it,” or “You should be grateful I made the effort.”
Your feelings and desires don’t matter to this person.
- They will avoid committing.
With fake love, your partner won’t want to make a commitment. They only talk about it in the abstract.
And even if they agree to something at one point, when the time comes, they’ll push any commitment out into the future – again!
On the other hand, when considering whether what you’re experiencing is true love or fake love, true love looks like this:
- They’re dependable.
You can count on your partner’s word. When they promise you something, they keep their commitments. There’s no second guessing.
- You know you’re important to your partner.
With someone who truly loves you, you’re a priority. Your needs are considered, and you make plans together so you both get your needs met.
- They collaborate and compromise.
When you’re in a true love relationship, your partner is willing to make sacrifices for the relationship. They’ll move their schedule around to accommodate you. They’ll even move to your city for you.
- They happily bring you into their world.
When you’re in true love, your partner wants to introduce you to their family and friends. They’re excited to introduce you because you’re the person they see themselves with for a long time. They’re proud to show you off! It doesn’t matter if people think you’re serious because your partner is!
- Physical intimacy is the frosting on the cake.
With true love, both of you want to wait until you feel you’re ready to become intimate. There’s no rush. You know you’ll be together. And when the time is right, you’ll have that incredible physical connection.
Knowing which type of love you’re experiencing becomes more clear over time because you’ll have more information. Then you’ll know what you’re experiencing when it comes to a question of true love vs fake love.
When you have true love, there’s very little second guessing. Everything this person does shows you that s/he is serious about having a life with you and is as committed to the relationship as you are.
With true love, you can relax and enjoy the journey.
Let me show you that you can find and keep true love and how to avoid fake love! Go to https://motivatedtomarry.com/connect-with-coach-amy/ and I can share with you how the Motivated to Marry Dating Secrets coaching program can give you the tools and strategies to assess which category your relationship falls into true love or fake love.