Answer this relationship question: What is your social network like? Who are your friends? And, do they help you meet people that could potentially introduce you to your life partner?
One of my clients is an introverted 30-something male with a close circle of male friends. These male friends are single AND have no interest in meeting women. This is not helping him in his quest to meet his mate.
I have suggested that he expand his circle of friends. First, we are using Facebook for him to friend people of his friends (women specifically) that are of interest to him to have a friend. You see, Facebook is like being at a party where you meet people through other people. You need to have a “nothing ventured, nothing gained” perspective when you are on Facebook.
You see how many friends you have in common and so you are more likely to have your invitation to connect with someone who sees you know the same people as they do. You can friend people that you see that you have some common interests.
The second approach was to find two to three Meetup.com groups that he would enjoy the activities and have an interest in common with the group members. The key to Meetup.com is to go to the group activities as often as you can so you can start seeing some people several times. Once you have established a relationship, then you can then follow up with them online to invite them to a related event or to meet for coffee or lunch. Also, you can friend them on Facebook!
Last, this client values people who give back to the community and we chose a singles’ volunteer group for him to participate on a more regular basis. My relationship question to you is what are your values and where can you meet people who share those values?
So the goal is to expand your network and start to get invited to events and parties with a wider group of friends. My client is participating in groups where people will get to know him over time so he will feel more comfortable in the social situations. There is usually an activity that he is participating in so he has something to talk to the women about which is less threatening than overt singles’ events.
Yes, this strategy takes time. However, he is expanding his network of friends and having a good time while doing it.
What is your plan for meeting the right one? Are you hanging out with the right people that can help you meet available people to date? What can you take away from this posting to implement for yourself?