There is a big buzz going around concerning the latest Bachelor, Jason, and his change of heart. Women everywhere are outraged at Jason for his behavior. What do you expect? He’s only human. Is this what we should expect when someone is getting married under duress?

Put yourself in his shoes- you meet 25 eligible women all vying for your attention. It’s like he has his own harem! Now, how many men do you know have that situation? This is TV and fantasy land. Through the internet, you can meet 25 supposedly eligible women. However, the women are all able to date other men at the same time and are not putting all their eggs in the proverbial basket! In real life, he would have to meet these women and have to sincerely woo them each. Perhaps given a choice, these women wouldn’t want to really date a single father and not give him the time of day. Okay, he’s not that bad looking! Most young women I know don’t want the baggage.

So in six weeks, he is supposed to pick a wife. How realistic is that? Moreover, he has this pressure to choose one because he is expected to do so. This is the premise of the show. He is under a microscope (or the cameras in TV speak) all along the way. Not such a typical situation in real-life dating!

In a real-life situation, if a guy is dating two women, he would most likely keep dating them until he knew for sure that a particular one was “the one”. Eventually, he’d have to choose because one or both women would request he do so or move on to find someone who would commit to her.

So after the show, when he got some distance from all the pressure and time to think, he had buyer’s remorse. In the end, he really felt he had chosen the wrong woman, after all.

So Jason regretted his original choice of a mate. The only mistake he made was in proposing to Melissa in the first place. You know the show must go on! Then, to break up with her on national TV was very cruel. Then again, it is TV, and drama is good for ratings!

Now remind me, why do we care? Back to our own lives!

What is your opinion?

This inquiring relationship coach wants to know your answers to these questions and any comments you may have on this subject.

Your relationship coach,

Amy