Meetup.com Tips for Dating

A recent big social trend is to meet people is through Meetup.com.   This is a site where evite meets facebook!  After you post your profile, you select what kind of people or groups you would like to be a part of.

Each Meetup has an organizer (or team of organizers) where they set up events for people to get together in your local area.  There are meetup groups for every kinds of interests or affiliation.  There is even a poodle meetup group where people get their dogs together! So another one of my tips for dating is to find a group that either follows a passion or important value for you.  For instance, one of my clients considers community service to be important to her.  She found a Meetup group for single volunteers.

Of course you will find that there are many singles Meetup groups in your area especially if you live in a metropolitan area.  You can also choose a group by age group, religion, activity or common interest.  I am an organizer in the Washington, DC area of the Marriage Minded Singles group (http://budurl.com/DCMMGroup) where I like to provide a mix of educational and social events for my group.   Many of the singles activities and dating companies are utilizing Meetup as a marketing vehicle for promoting their businesses to a particular group of people.

Here is one of my top tips for dating – what I like about Meetup is there is a way to connect with people after an event.  You see who signed up for an event with their picture on the RSVP area.  You can then follow up afterwards if you met someone that you connected with.

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However, there are guys who are contacting women in a Meetup group that they have not met them yet.  That’s considered uncool.  If the organizer finds out that someone is doing this, that person will be most likely asked to leave the group.

One of my key tips for dating is to join a handful of groups.  It’s better to be active in a few groups than spread very thin and going to a dozen groups where you don’t get to see the same people again.  A connection may not occur the first time you meet someone, although it may on a subsequent get together.

Have you tried Meetup.com?  What has been your experience?  Have you met nice people through this site for dating or friendship?      This inquiring coach would like to know your thoughts!

Intentionally yours,

Coach Amy

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21 comments on “Meetup.com Tips for Dating
  1. Chasta says:

    I think Meetup.com is a great way to meet people. I organize http://www.meetup.com/idsocialconnect, a singles Meetup Group for people open to interracial relationships. We host a wide range of activities — cookouts, dancing, happy hours, hikes and walks, performing arts, potlucks, seminars and workshops, sports outings, and travel to name a few — to engage members and to provide another outlet to mix and mingle.

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    • DL says:

      I am an active member of several meetup groups, and have found many of them have far more women than men in attendance.

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      • Ronn Levine says:

        We get a nice mix of people at The Art House meetup – http://www.meetup.com/thearthouse – and attend cool events.

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        • Jan says:

          I met my last boyfriend at my 1st Meetup group. Although I joined a few, he was initally in 30 groups and by the time we broke up 14 months later, in 70 groups. I always felt he was using it like Match.com, checking out profiles of new people who signed up (I caught him at it once). When I told him after 6 months, that I thought we should cut back, since it was mostly singles groups we were in, he said it was his way of having a social calendar or ideas of things to do. I ended up joining many more because I learned he was not including me on “all our plans”. I think one should use a great deal of caution when meeting guys through meetup, because I don’t think he is the only guy using it like an Internet dating service!

          One of the main reasons we broke up is because he wouldn’t introduce me to other people at these events or even admit that we were together (but commented that everyone already knew it, so it doesn’t need to be stated). Funny how I found out afterwards at a group function that no one there knew or had a clue that we had dated for 15 months!

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          • admin says:

            Sorry that your experience was not a good one. As with any way you meet someone, you have to get to know them and to see if you can trust them. This can happen at a non-meetup.com event as well as through internet dating or just meeting through singles events. It sounds like your ex was not very mature and was not ready to settle down. Better luck next time!

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            • Yolanda says:

              I can see where Jan is coming from. I joined Meetup.com a while back, and it has changed. Recently, I noticed some of the same serial daters from other sites are now joining Meetup.com and I hope the site doesn’t get tainted by men who are using it ultimately for casual sex. The groups I join are varied and I appreciate the diversity that Meetup.com offers, so I really hope the site doesn’t take a turn for the worse.

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              • admin says:

                With any social vehicle that grows big, your chances of meeting people who are not serious increases. That is why we have our Marriage Minded group- hopefully to weed out those kind of men (or women). You will find that on online dating and non-meetup singles groups in your area. There is a great way to repel these guys- don’t compromise yourself by having sex! They will move onto their next conquest. The right person will wait until both people are ready to take that step and respect boundaries. All I can say is to have an open mind!

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                • Yolanda says:

                  I agree that having an open mind is essential, but people need to be aware of the potential pitfalls as well. These serial “daters” are noticeable because they can be seen on other dating sites seeking casual sex; I stay away from those types and I always give myself ample time before engaging in sex. Still, at times you could wait until hell freezes over and think you know someone only to find that you really don’t know them at all. The fact is people change, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, and nothing is guaranteed. That said, I admire the purpose of your group.

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                  • Thanks for all our candid comments! One still needs to do their due diligence about someone and take their time before getting too involved with them. Yes, I agree by waiting to become intimiate you can find out if someone is truly interested in you or just wants to have sex. We try to make the best decisions for ourselves at the time. Yes, people are full of suprises! Good luck with your dating. Stay true to yourself. Coach Amy

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                    • roberto says:

                      I’ve been in meet up trying to meet someone without sucsess
                      I just have 2 months doing this and I’ve been in differents.
                      I’m not picky but sometimes ladies look to old for me or too boring. I’m not a serial dater. I’m not spending any dime on dating sites. The true is I’ve found more fun and more women
                      On craigslist than meetup..sometimes I think I’m wasting my time
                      In those unuseful meetings though I get some fun anyway

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                      • Coach Amy says:

                        I am curious about how you approach women and who you are looking for. Not everyone at Meetup is open to a relationship. There is a way to look for a relationship ready person.
                        I hope you will join my upcoming coaching group at http://www.motivatedtomarrydatingsecrets.com. Keep a look out- she’s there!

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                        • Bridget says:

                          I love using meetup.com. I have been part of many groups, some I have loved, and others that I have not loved so much. I like joining coed groups with a common interest, but one that is not just for singles. Takes pressure off, and have meet true friends through the site. When you do meet someone you want to date, you have usually gone out with them in a group setting. I think it helps when you meet someone you are not immediately attracted to, but may become so at some point down the line.

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                          • Melissa says:

                            I have joined a few meetups. When I go to activities, I am not looking to go just to meet a man. Going out to have a good time and meet other people is just fun. I’m thinking that if I am having a good time that special someone will find me. It shouldn’t be a job. I help organize activities for SPEADerS which is a singles group in Delaware. Our group states that if you become a couple, you can no longer be in our group. There are plenty groups for married or for just making friends. I am a member of three other groups. It is better than sitting home behind my computer.

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                            • Coach Amy says:

                              Thank you for sharing your experience and your Meetup group! Yes, I definitely agree- nothing ventured, nothing gained. It looks like you are keeping a good attitude and are going to have a good time most of all.

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                              • Liz says:

                                My husband used meetup.com to meet women. He never mentioned being married in his profile, and did the classic thing – removed his wedding ring, before going to meetup events. He would invite women to go to the bar with him before or after meetup events. He kept all this secret from me, until a friend tipped me off. I never guessed my husband led this double life. When I did finally ask him about meetup.com, he lied right to my face, telling me he didn’t know any of these women. Funny thing was – meetup.com is absolutely not private, so I could see all of his communications right there on the internet. I knew all of their names, saw their photos, even saw pictures of him with these women posted on the meetup.com site. I can’t blame the women – they thought he was a widower. LOLs. Meetup.com is for losers, liars and cheaters. I think the women who join are probably just lonely and perhaps a little desperate, lots of single moms looking for their next meal ticket. They just get used by men like my husband who are just dicking around.

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                                • Coach Amy says:

                                  I am sorry to hear of your husbands horrible actions. On any platform there are good people and bad. You can meet cheaters online and in bars as well. I believe in doing your research to see if someone is who they say they are. It’s good if someone in your network knows this person. Now with Facebook and Linked in- there is so much information. Even Google. I hope you get some support around there to know that not all men (or women) cheat. Hopefully one day, you can put this behind and meet a man who is worthy of your love and trust.

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                                  • Randall says:

                                    Meetup is great thing for a lot of people. I have gone out ona few dates with people I met on the site and even though it dosnt work out, it was a lot of fun.

                                    For people in professions where you don’t get out much – I teach, or for people who find themselves divorced when all of their friends just got married, it is, if nothing else, one more social vehicle.

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                                    • Coach Amy says:

                                      Yes, it’s one way to get out and expand your social network. You really don’t know who is motivated and who is not. So you have to find out the old fashioned way, by having a conversation! Glad you find it worthwhile.

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                                      • Scott says:

                                        I think with Meetup you have use common sense and have patience. There are many groups out there and some of the big ones can have several organizers and events during the same week, even same day. Don’t like a meetup group or organizer, try another one, simple.

                                        One huge drawback on online dating is you don’t know if you will have chemistry with someone even if they have attractive profile picture. Plus you usually arrange first meetings during the week which means your weekends are still empty and no fun. At least at a meetup event even if you don’t meet your significant other you will meet other people, have fun and expand your social network which you can’t be said for online dating.

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                                        • Coach Amy says:

                                          Yes, there are pluses and minuses to both. However over 80% of my successful clients have met through a traditional online site after they apply the Motivated to Marry Dating secrets methodology to their dating. Also, some coaching does help! You can have chemistry with someone, however, you may not share the same goals or the same values. A lot of time can be wasted. It’s always good to widen out your social network.

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                                          • AJ says:

                                            I found Meetup by accident last year. For months, I was trying to find a Catholic singles social group within my age range with no success. During a web search, I came across a Catholic group that was part of Meetup and decided to sign up. There were rarely any events and decided to explore what Meetup has to offer. I joined other groups. Being an introvert, it was hard for me to attend my first Meetup event. The organizer made me feel at ease and connected with other people. I’ve tried online dating and didn’t work for me. I believe Meetup is better because people can meet in a much safer setting. At least, that is my experience.

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