February can be a difficult time for singles interested in a serious relationship.  Everywhere you go, you see pink and red hearts, stuffed animals, balloons, candy boxes, and sexy lingerie! Valentine’s Day is featured on the covers of magazines, the internet, social media, and TV commercials. Everything is focused on lovers, and if you are single this Valentine’s Day, it can be a bit overwhelming. 

But this is not the time to dump on yourself! Valentine’s Day is, thankfully, the end of the busy holiday season. No more having to explain to the entire family why you’re still single, or feeling like a 3rd wheel at couple-filled gatherings. 

And yet, there are still plenty of people who are going to turn toward you, with pity or apology in their eyes, and inquire what you’ll be doing as a single on Valentine’s Day. If you’re still unsure how to answer, I’ve got you! It’s the perfect day to do something that is fulfilling, or meaningful, or even just fun, without any apologies to anyone. 

Check out this list of 15+ ways to ENJOY Valentine’s Day as a Single

First of all, Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to look inward at all the wonderful things your single self has to offer.  

Don’t give those negative gremlins an ear. When intrusive thoughts try to tear you down, pull out those lists of all of your gifts, talents, unique interests, gratitudes, and goals, and remind yourself who you are! 

Have you not created any of those lists? Now is a great time to get them done! Confidence is attractive, so if you’re a single who’s looking for lasting love, self-affirmation is the best first step in showing up as the best you possible when meeting new people.   

Solo Projects- if you don’t want to be with others

• Treat yourself- Splurge and book that spa day you’ve been putting off, or take a shopping spree. Now is a great time to update your wardrobe for the coming spring and summer seasons!
  
  
• Book Date- have a book or an audio that’s been on your TBR for far too long? This is a great night to settle back, order some takeout, and dive in!
  
  
• FaceTime a Friend– Or family. Life is so busy- which makes Valentine’s Day a perfect time to get caught up with single friends or with loved ones who are far away.
  
  
• Pet Party- When I was single, I said that my cat was my longest relationship outside my family and long-time friends! How about showing your pet some special attention? Time spent with a loved pet releases oxytocin, the love and happiness hormone!
  
  
• Hit the Gym! Let the endorphins of exercise flood you with hope and encouragement. This is especially helpful if you started the new year with a new gym membership that you still haven’t used. Bonus: you can see who else is single at the gym, as well!
  
  
• Stay in- Spoil yourself and do those things that you normally wouldn’t. Order in that extravagant (or mildly unhealthy) meal and a movie, binge-watch your favorite series, get online, and spend hours gaming solo or with friends.

With Friends- if you don’t want to be alone

• Organize a “Gal”entine’s or “Pal”entine’s Party
  • Potluck, Dessert Night, or  BBQ with friends!- Or, if you’re the cooking kind, host a dinner party and invite other single friends to bring a single friend!
    
  • Game Night! Whether it’s board games, video games, or going out to the arcade, this is an event you can’t lose!
    
  • Book Night! Instead of reading alone, grab a bottle of wine or a fancy dessert and meet up with friends. Bonus: This is a fantastic social idea for introverts who want company but not a lot of conversation. 
    
  • Project Night- Have a craft, woodworking, or automotive project that you haven’t had time for? Grab some friends and do it together!  Pinterest is FULL of great project ideas!
    
    
• Host a dinner for those who usually host you– Do family dinners usually happen at mom’s or grandma’s house? Spend time with loved ones and invite them over or take them out for a special treat.
  
  
• Singles / Community Events– More than likely, somewhere in your community, there are public Valentine’s Day events for both couples and singles. Check your local chamber of commerce or  Facebook. You can also find things to do with similarly-interested singles on Meetup.com. I’ve seen speed dating, public outings, and singles takeover events, just to name a few.
  
  
• Go out! There’s no rule that singles can’t be seen in public on Valentine’s Day. Take back your story and go dancing, hit the links (even the mini ones if you’re not a golfer), catch a concert, a movie, or the amusement park. If couples can do it, so can you and your friends!
  

Bigger Picture Ideas- if you don’t want to focus on you

• Volunteer- with the holidays mostly over, the volunteering numbers usually begin to drop. This is a great way to take the focus off yourself and to give back to your community. Inquire with your local food pantries, homeless shelters, or retirement facilities.
  
  
• Playdate/Babysit– If you have children, look to get together with other single parents and set up a playdate for you and your kiddos. Or if you know of some moms who could use a break offer to babysit for the day/evening. Pour your extra love into the next generation.
  
  
• Focus on Family- take your kids out or treat them to something special. Have a No “Nos” night and let them pick what’s for dinner, no matter how wild! Or set up a fun craft, buy a family game, or build a living room fort. No matter how old your kiddos are, everyone loves a good living room fort!
  
  
•  Travel- whether with a single group or on your own, if Valentine’s Day falls on a weekend, take a few extra vacation days and get away. Explore the world and have an adventure somewhere new. Or visit someplace (or someone) you love and reconnect.

So what will you be doing with your single Valentine’s Day? 

Instead of letting Valentine’s Day be a downer, let it be a catalyst to usher in a new season of hope and happiness. Think of it as an opportunity to get creative, have fun, and do something meaningful.

Because spring is right around the corner, and we can all finally come out from the cold. It’s time to turn from our isolation and venture back into a world of new possibilities.

What if Valentine’s Day was the last holiday you spent as a single? What if love is out there waiting for you to show up and claim it! 

If you’ve been struggling with singleness and dating and would like to finally develop a successful plan for finding lasting love, let’s talk. From resources and events, to group coaching, to one-on-one coaching, I’m sure I have a program that can help you find the love you’ve been searching for.  

Go to www.talkwithcoachamy.com and let’s find a time to connect!

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About the Author

is a certified life coach and dating/relationship expert who has helped hundreds of marriage-minded singles find lasting, committed partnerships since 2005. Through private coaching and group programs, she specializes in helping people date with clarity, confidence, and purpose.