Most people I know have been affected by the awful stock market and the current recession.  Retirement portfolios have been slammed and we all feel less financially secure.  People have been laid off from jobs, and businesses have been down.  Be that as it may, you have a choice. 

Do you want to be a “Sad Sack” with a frown on your face and look like all is lost?  How attractive is that to the opposite sex?  Or do you want to be positive about the future and hold the belief that you can bounce back.  Most people find that attractive- especially when it’s based on reality instead of just Polyanna optimism.  

Hopefully, you have taken some steps to secure your future.  The stock market will eventually come back.  You are being pro-active about your job situation or you are being creative about maintaining and growing your business.  We just have to live long enough to see the stock market turn around and prosperity to return.  Most of us are tightening our belts.  How can you continue to date given your current financial situation? 

I know people who have met love partners when they were unemployed.   They were positive about their future and had a plan in place.  One guy was still living at home with his parents at 38!  He was starting a business and this helped him save money.  His girlfriend understood this.  He is now married, owns a house and has a thriving insurance business. 

Another girlfriend was unemployed and met a guy (they were both in their late 30’s) who was finishing law school.  She did get a new job fairly quickly and he studied for the bar exam.  She had a baby and he did the majority of the baby care while studying.   Both were flexible about their roles and positive about their future. 

So how do you want to come across when you are out there meeting men and women to date?  Do you want to be like Chicken Little expecting the sky to fall?  Or do you want to heed the words of our new President and work to rebuild your future?  My dating advice to you is to consider many people you meet will judge you by your attitude and your actions.  What do you find attractive?   Would you consider dating someone unemployed?

This inquiring relationship coach wants to know!

Your relationship coach,

Amy

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