As a coach I constantly hear my potential clients’ frustrations with dating and meeting the right person who wants what they do — a serious relationship leading to marriage. They are dating online, going to Meetups and other singles’ events, and asking friends to set them up. And yet, they are still not connecting with the right people.
Dating takes both focus and resolve. You need to be willing to take a hard look at what is getting your the way to meeting that special person. And in what other areas of your life are you not getting what you want: career, friendships, weight, health. I believe that you have to look at dating and relationships in context of what’s going on in your whole life.
When I turned 40, I hired a relationship coach. I had felt like I was going through the dating revolving door time and time again and something had to change. I knew I had to shift how I was putting myself out there for dating and who I was connecting with.
No matter where you are in your journey to meeting the right person for love, these are 4 tips to get you moving in the right direction and help you get on the path to finding lasting, true love. With love of a mate comes happiness and a sense of peace and security (when you are with the right person). You can work on building your life together as a couple and utilize the energy of finding someone to other worthwhile endeavors in your life.
When I met my husband, it was like I had come home. I found that special person with whom I could build our life together and start a family. However, I almost missed him. I had to learn how to shift my dating radar.
In order to get you on the right path to meeting the right person leading to a loving relationship, here are the 4 mindset shifts I recommend for you:
1. Describe fully the relationship you are seeking both in words and in a visual representation. When you gain this clarity, you are creating a pathway to having this become a reality. And then, you can make your decision to date someone based up how well they fit into your ideal life-relationship vision.
2. Get clear on the “Compelling reason” or the why are your seeking this relationship. What is it that keeps you motivated? Is it to have a travel companion or to get married and have a family? Knowing why you are dating and then finding out the reason others are dating is one of the keys to the Motivated to Marry Dating Secrets process.
3. Face your Fears. Yes dating can be scary and exciting at the same time. I recommend you face your fears head on. See them for what they truly are (a hinderance) and find a way to co-exist with them. (usually fears don’t go away, you just need to learn how to manage them). When you go out your comfort zone, you will see that it is not as scary as you thought and may even have fun as you get out there in hope of meeting the right person!
4. Commit to the process of learning and growing. Learning about people and yourself will benefit you in all areas of your life, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. By the way, “dating” is the process of taking the time to get to know someone. It’s kind of a lost art. Expecting an instant relationship is foolhardy and can backfire on you. Having support and accountability of a trusted guide and/or group is amazing. You will be lovingly pushed out of your comfort zone and great things can happen for you as I have seen with many of my clients.
Changing the way you operate is not easy. And it may be just the thing to help you shift how you are putting yourself out there for dating and make it easier for you to connect with the right person who will become your life partner or marriage mate.
My coach helped me see things from a new perspective and to ditch my limiting beliefs that were holding me back. I’m a smart person and I know you are too. Only smart people would read this far :)! You may have been going it alone for a while now. If you want to be in relationship with someone, then I recommend you improve your relationship skills with either a professional coach or a group that is run by one.
If you are at a place in your life where you know it’s time to make some changes and want to focus on finding your life love partner, then the only way to get what you want is by getting clear with your life and relationship vision. Then you can start developing a dating action plan. If you would like some help with putting together your dating action plan, I’d be happy to have a focused (and powerful) strategy session with you. Just fill out www.TalkwithCoachAmy.com and we can set one up.
P.S. My Committed to Love group will be start this early March with a dozen very quality men and women who are dedicated to supporting one another in their journey to meet the right person for true love. To be a part of this incredible 4 month personal growth experience fill out my form at www.TalkwithCoachAmy.com so we can determine if this is the right fit for you. You can have you be in a relationship by this summer! You deserve a loving partner in you life. Let’s talk about how I can help you make this happen for you as it has happened for so many of my clients!