Do you just see some people as being charming?  You find yourself responding positively to them and enjoying their company.  Do you see yourself as a charming person?  How can you be more charming? 

Sometimes our lessons come from our children.  My 5 month old son is quite the charmer!  When we are out or someone comes to visits- he genuinely smiles at people upon their greeting of my son.  By smiling at them, he is acknowledging them.  He wins them over every time! My friend or the waitress says, “Hi Baby!” and a big grin appears on my son’s face.  It makes that person feel so good.  He seems to really like people. 

Not only am a new mom who likes to brag about my son, I have also observed a phenomenon that reminds me how to be charming.   First, people appreciate being acknowledged.  Second, do you show genuine interest in another?  Do you show by your facial expressions that you enjoy the interaction. Here, a smile and engaging eye contact goes a long way. 

Have you ever passed a person while walking in your neighborhood and the passerby smiles at you? It’s hard not to smile back at that person.  Yes, it’s more than just a smile, it’s creating a connection with that person by looking in their eyes and acknowledging them. If you are in conversation, it’s about showing genuine interest in what someone is saying.  

Okay, we don’t want to hold our gaze too long or it’s just gets creepy.  Think back on who you consider charming.  What made them that way to you.  I always like to go back to basics.  I have observed that many people have difficulty in connecting- they may be shy or nervous about talking to people they don’t know.  

I have a friend who at a single events (when I was single myself) he would talk to you and his eyes were darting around the room during the conversation.  You felt as though he really wasn’t interested in talking to you and was checking out all the other women in the room!  It was very disconcerting to my friends and me. 

My relationship advice is to stay curious about the other person.  Hold any judgement about the other person and yourself.  Just enjoy the interaction.  Don’t go to the place of “I couldn’t see myself dating this person”.  You are only engaging in conversation.  Nothing more!

So my personal coaching challenge to you is to start being charming in your interactions today!  Practice on your friends and relatives.  Let me know how it goes!  Then try it with your dating interactions.  I bet it will make a huge difference! 

Your relationship coach,

Amy

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