As an active and accomplished man who is ready to settle down, you don’t want to waste your time dating women that you have no long-term relationship compatibility with. You’ll want to be selective about who you spend your precious time with, which is why it’s important to be able to tell quickly if a woman is marriage material or not.
Believe it or not, you can tell a whole lot about a girl on a first date. And there’s a way you can find out if it’s worth exploring a relationship with her or if you’re just wasting your time.
Given that you are attracted to this woman, by knowing the right get-to-know-you questions to ask a girl on a first date — ones that spark a real and revealing conversation with her — you’ll easily know if it’s worth asking her out again.
Here are 7 interesting get-to-know-you questions to ask a girl on a first date that reveal if she’s marriage material.
1. If you could have a conversation with anyone (living or dead), who would it be and what would you talk about?
The way she answers this question will tell you a lot about her. You’ll learn who and what she finds interesting. You will also uncover her values. Shared values are the glue in relationships.
Can you imagine having more conversations about the types of things that interest her in the future? Does that excite you? If not, then she may not be the right girl for you.
2. What is one of the proudest moments in your life?
When you ask a girl this question on a first date, you give her a chance to shine! She’ll smile and tell you a great story about herself that reveals her values further.
If you discover you share common values, that’s great news for your compatibility! After all, solid marriages are built on common values.
3. Do you want to be famous? If so, for what do you want to be known?
Her answer to this question could give you insight into her aspirations and what she wants in her life.
Are her aspirations something you would be willing to support? Do her aspirations align with your own? If you can answer “yes” to both these questions, it’s definitely worth learning more about her.
Compatible goals are essential to a solid marriage. It’s important that you are aligned in your life goals.
In addition, from this question, you might be able to tell if she’s the type of person who is a “we” person and doesn’t necessarily need to be in the limelight and who will support your aspirations as well as her own, or if she’s a “me” person. Perhaps her desire to be famous may be a priority over her marriage and family life.
4. How do you spend your free time?
This will tell you a bit about how she really lives and is a great question to ask your crush. And it will give you a glimpse into her work life balance. Does she have hobbies or interests outside of her work life?
And if so, can you imagine doing some of the same things together? In addition, can you imagine being OK with her doing some different activities than you and then sharing your experiences with each other? If you answer “no” to both these questions, then she may not be the one for you.
5. What’s your favorite thing about your best friend?
Her answer to this get-to-know-you question will help you learn something about what she values in a close relationship. And, it could give you a sneak peek into what she’s looking for in a husband, too. This will delve deeper into her values, and most likely her critical relationship values. Again, we connect through values. And those values need to be aligned for a long-term relationship.
However, there can be things about your best friend that does not necessarily have to be true for a romantic relationship. For instance, my best friend and I love to talk about fashion. This is not something that I necessarily have to share with my husband!
6. What’s your favorite childhood memory?
Since your childhood influences who you become and how you react, this is one of the most important questions to ask on a first date.
If she seems to sift through several memories, you’ll know her childhood was fairly happy. If she seems to struggle with answering the question, you’ll know her childhood wasn’t all that great.
And if she didn’t have a great family life, that doesn’t automatically mean she isn’t for you. Pay attention to how she answers the questions and the path she has taken to get where she is today. Those will be the most important answers to consider.
7. For what purpose are you dating?
This straightforward question will let you know if she’s marriage-minded like you or not. If she’s not, then you know right away that she’s not the one for you. Also, know that she may not share this information in a first meeting. She may want to get to know you better and your intentions before sharing this with you.
Now that you know some of the most telling questions to ask a girl on a first date, you need to know how best to ask them.
No one likes feeling like they’re being interviewed or worse interrogated — especially on a first date! So, be sure you ask your questions throughout the conversation. Be curious and ask then in an open-ended fashion that’s not too leading.
Of course, you need to be willing to thoughtfully answer her questions, too. After all, she’s trying to learn as much as she can about you as well.
By having these seven get-to-know-you questions and knowing how to ask them, you’ll be ready to have a great first date that will allow you to know if the woman you’re dating is marriage material or not.
It’s not enough for marriage-minded singles struggling to meet their soul mate to simply use online dating sites and attend to singles events. For that to be successful, it’s necessary to first learn how to quickly identify and connect with others who share a similar life vision and your core relationship values.
This article was originally published on YourTango.