{"id":73,"date":"2009-06-05T06:31:11","date_gmt":"2009-06-05T10:31:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/motivatedtomarryblog.com\/?p=73"},"modified":"2009-06-05T06:31:11","modified_gmt":"2009-06-05T10:31:11","slug":"kindness-is-an-attractive-trait","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/kindness-is-an-attractive-trait\/","title":{"rendered":"Kindness is an Attractive Trait"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of my friends is taking classes through the Meditation Center of Greater Washington DC and we got talking about kindness as a trait in people.\u00a0 When I work through to get the values clarification of my clients, kindness, compassion and caring come up for many as must have values for a partner.\u00a0 I asked my friend to write a piece on the subject for my blog. So here it is:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Kindess is the highest form of wisdom&#8221;, the Talmud says. The Dali Lama says, &#8220;My religion is kindness&#8221;.\u00a0 Buddhism teaches that we create our world through our thoughts. If we want to live in a world that is safe and loving there is no better place to start building that hopeful world than inside our own loving hearts.\u00a0 We do this by practicing kindness to ourselves and others.<\/p>\n<p>Kindness is a quality of the heart that exists in all of us.\u00a0 We all have the capacity to be kind.\u00a0 It is not a quality of mind, though we may think kindly towards someone.\u00a0 True kindness is not premediated or calculated but insteads springs naturally from that open, gentle giving space in our hearts.\u00a0 The poet Emily Dickinson eloquently wrote that,&#8221; hope asks nothing of us in return.&#8221; The same can also be said of kindness.\u00a0 It is a pure act.\u00a0 The reward is soley in the act of being kind.<\/p>\n<p>When we can see the world through someone elses eyes, we begin to touch upon our common humanity. We discover that we are all children of God, each blessed with special, unique gifts and sharing the same hopes and dreams, fears and concerns.\u00a0 When we recognize the divine in all of us, we are able to contact a wellspring of compassion and caring which is the essence of kindness.\u00a0 We act from the innate goodness in our own hearts without expecting anythng in return.\u00a0 The impulse to help, comfort, console, encourage, nurture is not reserved just for our human relations.\u00a0 It can easily be applied to our connection with animals as well . When we remember the importance of kindness in our daily lives, both with our family, friends and pets, as well as with strangers, we slowly create the conditions necessary for healing the divisions in the world and replacing them with love.<\/p>\n<p>Written by David Katzin, student of Tara Brach &#8212; Meditation and Dharma Teacher of the Insight Meditation Council of Greater Washington.<\/p>\n<p>How is kindness important to your dating life? Is this an attractive quality for you?\u00a0 How can you bring more kindness in your life?<br \/>\nThis inquiring relationship coach wants to know your answers to these questions and any comments you may have on this subject. (Click comment link at the end of this blog post)<\/p>\n<p>Your relationship coach,<\/p>\n<p>Amy<\/p>\n<p>Get your relationship questions answered! Subscribe to my emails to get helpful dating and relationship advice and tips to move you forward towards your goal of meeting a partner for a committed serious relationship or to enhance your existing love relationships at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.heartmindconnection.com\/\">www.heartmindconnection.com<\/a> You can sign up for my next tele-gathering there.Also, you can download a free chapter of relationship advice from my book, <em>Get It Right This Time-How to Find and Keep Your Ideal Romantic Relationship<\/em> at <a href=\"http:\/\/www.getitrightthistime.com\/\">www.GetItRightThisTime.com<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.getitrightthistime.com\/\">P.S.S. Do you live in the DC metro area? If so, when you sign up for my calendar of events on <\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.dcdatinginfo.com\/\">www.DCDatingInfo.com<\/a>, there are more ideas about trips to take for the summer to meet someone for a serious love relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of my friends is taking classes through the Meditation Center of Greater Washington DC and we got talking about kindness as a trait in people.\u00a0 When I work through to get the values clarification of my clients, kindness, compassion and caring come up for many as must have values for a partner.\u00a0 I asked [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO Premium plugin v18.3 (Yoast SEO v18.5.1) - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Kindness is an Attractive Trait - 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