{"id":627,"date":"2012-12-14T11:55:15","date_gmt":"2012-12-14T16:55:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/?p=627"},"modified":"2019-05-15T13:40:32","modified_gmt":"2019-05-15T17:40:32","slug":"are-you-chasing-after-the-wrong-person-in-your-hopes-of-finding-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/are-you-chasing-after-the-wrong-person-in-your-hopes-of-finding-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Are you chasing after the wrong person in your hopes of finding love?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Let me see if you can relate to this.\u00a0 You meet someone you are very much attracted to.\u00a0 You try and get their attention.\u00a0 You may have even succeeded in going out with them (you did the asking) and yet, there is no reciprocal action.\u00a0 He or she is happy to accept your invitations.\u00a0 However, they are not calling you.\u00a0 It is not reciprocal.<\/p>\n

Not everyone single person is motivated to marry.\u00a0 Just this week, I met a very handsome, polished professional 43 year old man who is divorced with a college aged child (and out of the house!).\u00a0 Finding love is the last thing on his to do list.\u00a0 What he is focused on is his career.\u00a0 He wants to be in a much better financial situation before thinking of getting serious with anyone.<\/p>\n

I have heard this story over and over again from attractive, seemly eligible single people who are really not on the market.\u00a0 If you are truly a marriage-minded person<\/a>, you would be barking up the proverbial wrong tree.\u00a0 This is why it is important to look for people who are marriage minded.\u00a0 These people are also putting a priority on finding love and want a life with that special person sooner than later.\u00a0\u00a0 I do meet many perennially single people through my networking.<\/p>\n

One of my coaching clients, Kathy, is very attractive, late 40\u2019s woman who had never been married.\u00a0 She met this very handsome man with his own business, divorced with children who live in a different city.\u00a0 What I found out was that she was making most of the effort and traveled to him to see him most times.\u00a0 This was going on for over two years!<\/p>\n

Through the coaching she realized that she was not going to get more of his time and commitment.\u00a0 She had to make a decision.\u00a0 She chose to leave and make herself available again.<\/p>\n

In a couple of months, she met her now current boyfriend online.\u00a0 They are dating exclusively and she is enjoying the time and attention that she never got with her old boyfriend.<\/p>\n

A romantic relationship has to be reciprocal or you will be doing all the work with little to show for it in the end.\u00a0 You have to ask yourself, \u201cDo I really have time to wait for this guy or gal?\u201d\u00a0 And even if you do, it may not end up as you had hoped.\u00a0 How long will you wait for this person to know if you have found true love leading to marriage?<\/p>\n

This coach recommends you stop chasing.\u00a0 That is the only way you will know if your intended has the same level of interest (and focus) as you do in finding love.<\/p>\n

What do you think?\u00a0 This curious coach would love to know.<\/p>\n

Warm Wishes for a happy holiday,<\/p>\n

Coach Amy<\/p>\n

PS.\u00a0 A new year is coming soon.\u00a0 Do you have a plan for finding love for 2013<\/strong>?\u00a0 Let me help you get ready for the New Year with a Meet your Motivated to Marry Mate<\/em> Strategy Session. Fill out my brief survey at www.talkwithcoachamy.com<\/a> and then we can schedule your strategy session.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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