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Apparently nothing can stand in the way of finding love. Not even a global pandemic. And that\u2019s a great statement about the enduring power of human connection. Can\u2019t meet in person? Get creative with online dating. Can\u2019t attend that speed dating event at your favorite bar? Hit the internet and find an online speed dating event on Zoom instead.<\/p>\n

The point is that opportunity abounds for finding true love<\/a>, regardless of what\u2019s going on in the world or in your life. And online speed dating is just another creative bump in the search for love.<\/p>\n

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Online dating tends to get most of the attention. These days, most singles who want to find a partner have a profile \u2014 or two or three or ten \u2014 on dating apps. They may even forget profiles that are still hanging around on free apps. (Time for a little housecleaning?)<\/p>\n

As a dating coach<\/a>, I take a holistic approach with my clients. I want them to have the full breadth of dating experiences that mesh with their authentic selves.<\/p>\n

For this reason, I don\u2019t limit a client\u2019s plan to online dating or any other singular approach.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s where speed dating \u2014 and now online speed dating <\/em>\u2014 comes in.<\/p>\n

Not familiar? Not confident you can shine in a round-robin mixer? Worried you might waste your time or money?<\/p>\n

Read on before cutting yourself (and speed dating) short. You might just wonder why it took a global pandemic to bring this meet-and-greet to your living room.<\/h2>\n

A little history on speed dating\u2026.<\/p>\n

Believe it or not, hints of the future started in the 19th century with a ritual called New Year\u2019s Calling<\/em><\/a>. <\/em>Kind of a Jane Austen version of a drop-in open house, but for young singles.<\/p>\n

Fast forward to the late 1990\u2019s when speed dating got its modern-day start as a way to help Jewish singles meet potential matches on a more level playing field.<\/p>\n

Now, when you hear the term \u201cspeed dating,\u201d you can almost hear the \u201ctime\u2019s up\u201d bell dinging.<\/p>\n

So what are some of the pros and cons of speed dating? And are they the same for online speed dating as for in-person speed dating?<\/h2>\n

Let me give you a bit of a set up.<\/p>\n

Most speed dating hosts organize the event by age groups, interests, and even religion. You arrive at a bar, restaurant or other venue with about two dozen other singles \u2014 half women and half men.<\/p>\n

After signing in, you\u2019re given a number and a card for jotting notes about the people you meet.<\/p>\n

Pairs are pre-assigned, and usually one gender will remain in place while the other gender rotates after each time limit is up.<\/p>\n

Different organizations will have different time limits, but the norm is five to ten minutes. Just enough time to get an idea of your \u201cdate\u201d, but not too long.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re interested in someone, you put that person\u2019s number on your card.<\/p>\n

At the end, you turn in your card to the master of ceremonies. And, if both<\/em> people put one another\u2019s number down on their cards, they will receive one another\u2019s contact information via email so they can meet outside the event.<\/p>\n

Thanks to tech-savvy romance protectors, this low-risk dating format now has an at-home version in the form of online speed dating (usually via Zoom).<\/p>\n

Instead of candidates moving around the room, you\u2019re paired up in Zoom \u201cbreakout rooms\u201d for the duration of your mini-date. The organizer takes care of watching the time and re-pairing candidates.<\/p>\n

And the pros and cons are pretty much the same as for the in-person version…save for the off-screen attire, driving, and parking and cocktail costs.<\/p>\n

Here are some of the pros of online speed dating:<\/h2>\n