{"id":4362,"date":"2020-07-14T10:21:05","date_gmt":"2020-07-14T14:21:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/?p=4362"},"modified":"2020-07-14T10:21:05","modified_gmt":"2020-07-14T14:21:05","slug":"afraid-to-love-again-dont-throw-in-the-towel-yet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/afraid-to-love-again-dont-throw-in-the-towel-yet\/","title":{"rendered":"Afraid To Love Again? Don\u2019t Throw In The Towel Yet."},"content":{"rendered":"

Everyone experiences the dark side of love at some point. It might be an unexpected breakup or infidelity or a partner who has misrepresented who s\/he is. The point is, the process of finding true love<\/a> isn\u2019t always a slam dunk. And, the more you\u2019ve been hurt or disappointed, the more you may be afraid to love again.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s natural to want to steer clear of people and things that hurt you. But it\u2019s not necessary to give up on a great relationship out of fear.<\/p>\n

\"Coach<\/a><\/p>\n

There are a lot of potential reasons for relationships not working out. And there are a lot of ways you can better prepare yourself for the partner and relationship of your dreams. Yes, even if you are afraid to love again!<\/h2>\n

Believe it or not, the majority of my clients are marriage-minded people<\/a>. They want to find \u201cthe one\u201d and move out of the dating phase into the commitment of marriage and even family life if that\u2019s still a goal of yours.<\/p>\n

I love the positive, hopeful attitude of these clients. And occasionally I hear a dating story that reminds me of why I<\/em> was once afraid to love again. And it sends shivers down my spine.<\/p>\n

When I first married, I was young and naive. I had no idea that I was about to be bamboozled by the man I loved. The signs were all right there in front of me, but I didn\u2019t see them.<\/p>\n

If I had paid attention to his family influences, I would have noticed the way his father often put down his mother. Sadly, his father thought it was funny and called his ridicule a \u201cjoke.\u201d He didn\u2019t respect women. And he hadn\u2019t taught his son to respect them, either. As the saying goes, the apple doesn\u2019t fall far from the tree.<\/p>\n

Sometimes the signs you see point only to perfection. He seems wonderful and sweeps you off your feet. Or she seems like just the kind of woman your family would love and embrace. In some ways, it seems too good to be true, but you don\u2019t have any reason to go looking for something negative.<\/p>\n

And then…you get the wind knocked out of you. You discover or experience something that makes you think, \u201cI knew <\/em>it was too good to be true!\u201d<\/p>\n

Perhaps your new love interest is still communicating with an old flame, despite claiming to be exclusive with you. Or maybe there is a toxic relationship with a child or other family member.<\/p>\n

Perhaps s\/he has a big financial debt. Maybe s\/he is a \u201cyes\u201d person who doesn\u2019t know how or intend to follow through on promises made to you. Perhaps this person is actually selfish and doesn\u2019t really care about your best interests.<\/p>\n

So how can you openly trust if you’ve been hurt by someone like this and are afraid to love again?<\/h2>\n

First, remind yourself that there are<\/em> good people in the world.<\/h3>\n

Then realize that, to be successful in love, you have to know <\/em>the person you are falling in love with. And that takes time. <\/em>Get to know \u201cthe whole package\u201d — family, children, friends, even co-workers.<\/p>\n

Some couples today even share their credit scores and bank statements before deciding to marry. They know that financial attitudes and responsibility reveal a lot about a person.<\/p>\n

What kinds of things are you looking for when you are \u201cgetting to know the whole package\u201d? Here are some questions you might put onto your mental list:<\/p>\n