{"id":320,"date":"2011-10-07T17:37:29","date_gmt":"2011-10-07T21:37:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/?p=320"},"modified":"2011-10-07T17:37:29","modified_gmt":"2011-10-07T21:37:29","slug":"relationship-question-can-you-be-friends-after-a-romance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/relationship-question-can-you-be-friends-after-a-romance\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Question: Can you be friends after a romance?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I received an email asking me this relationship question, \u201cI met a great guy.\u00a0 We dated for a while but it didn\u2019t work out.\u00a0 Is it possible to be friends?\u201d<\/p>\n

My answer to this relationship question needs to take a broad approach and look at some possible variables:<\/p>\n

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  1. How long did you date and were you physically involved? If you dated for a couple of months (what\u2019s a while? weeks, months or years).\u00a0 I dated a nice man and we were never physically involved.\u00a0 I realized that we were not a match on many levels.\u00a0 However, through the years we were able to remain friends.<\/li>\n
  2. What were the circumstances of the breakup?\u00a0 Who broke up with whom?\u00a0 I\u2019m not sure what it didn\u2019t work out<\/em> means.\u00a0 It does appear that you are okay with the break up or have come to terms with it.\u00a0 When you are with him, can you be okay just being friends?\u00a0 Or are you going to be hurting inside and be thinking, \u201cOnly if..\u201d every time you see him.<\/li>\n
  3. What is the relationship\/friendship based upon?\u00a0 There is a reason you think he is still a great guy and worthy of your time and attention.\u00a0 Know that the time you spend with him takes away the time you have to devote to finding a new love.\u00a0 And how would a new boyfriend feel about you having a relationship with an old boyfriend?\u00a0 Time will tell on this one.<\/li>\n
  4. It takes two to have a friendship.\u00a0\u00a0 Is he open and willing to have a friendship with you?\u00a0 What are the expectations of this friendship?\u00a0 Would both him and you take the responsibility of initiation of contact?\u00a0 What would that look like? A weekly phone call to check and to ask, \u201cHow are you doing?\u201d or \u201cWhat are you doing this weekend?\u201d Or the friendship requires just periodic text messages, \u00a0having you on his joke distribution email list, or as Facebook friends?<\/li>\n
  5. One of my coaches told me that it is possible to be friends after you have had about 3 relationships.\u00a0 I really think once you have a new man in your life, and that this new man is okay with you having a friendship with a man you were romantically involved with in the past, then a friendship is possible provided your ex has moved on, as well.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    To answer your relationship question, \u201cIs it possible?\u201d \u2013 of course it is!\u00a0 You need to weigh the pros and cons and see if this is the right situation for both of you.\u00a0 Also, check in with your body and see how right that decision feels for you.\u00a0 In the end, time will tell whether a friendship can really develop.\u00a0 I believe relationships are organic.\u00a0 They either move forward and grow or dissipate!<\/p>\n

    Intentionally yours,<\/p>\n

    Coach Amy<\/p>\n

    PS.\u00a0 If you live in the DC area and you are marriage minded, join my Meetup Group at http:\/\/budurl.com\/DCMMGroup<\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0 Meet other marriage minded singles for friendship and dating!\u00a0 For those outside of the DC area, sign up on my Facebook page at www.facebook.com\/marriagemindedsinglesdeclared<\/a>.\u00a0 Order your free red bracelet there today and declare to the world you are marriage minded!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    I received an email asking me this relationship question, \u201cI met a great guy.\u00a0 We dated for a while but it didn\u2019t work out.\u00a0 Is it possible to be friends?\u201d My answer to this relationship question needs to take a broad approach and look at some possible variables: How long did you date and were […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[44],"tags":[26],"yoast_head":"\nRelationship Question: Can you be friends after a romance? - Motivated to Marry<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/relationship-question-can-you-be-friends-after-a-romance\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Relationship Question: Can you be friends after a romance?\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"I received an email asking me this relationship question, \u201cI met a great guy.\u00a0 We dated for a while but it didn\u2019t work out.\u00a0 Is it possible to be friends?\u201d My answer to this relationship question needs to take a broad approach and look at some possible variables: How long did you date and were […]\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/relationship-question-can-you-be-friends-after-a-romance\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Motivated to Marry\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/MotivatedToMarry\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2011-10-07T21:37:29+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Coach Amy\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"3 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/#organization\",\"name\":\"Motivated to Mary\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/\",\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/MotivatedToMarry\",\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/user\/RelationshipCoachamy\/\",\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/CoachAmySchoen\"],\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/#logo\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/05\/coach-amy-offer.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/05\/coach-amy-offer.png\",\"width\":88,\"height\":125,\"caption\":\"Motivated to Mary\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/#logo\"}},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/\",\"name\":\"Motivated to Marry\",\"description\":\"Get relationship advice to your relationship problems for those seeking a serious relationship\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/relationship-question-can-you-be-friends-after-a-romance\/#webpage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/motivatedtomarry.com\/stage\/relationship-question-can-you-be-friends-after-a-romance\/\",\"name\":\"Relationship Question: Can you be friends after a romance? 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