During the months of June and July after returning from the biking weekend in Cape May, I was busy dating other men I had met on that trip in addition to Alan.\u00a0\u00a0 I was taking the time to get to know each of them.<\/p>\n
I went to an outdoor concert at a music hall with Barry where he provided the dinner, as well.\u00a0 Then we spent another afternoon at my pool.\u00a0 While he was swimming laps, I saw an old male friend who was married.\u00a0 Being a social person and not one who likes to sit still for too long, I was having a conversation with my friend.\u00a0 Barry got upset that I was putting my attention to someone else besides him.\u00a0\u00a0 I wasn’t being rude, since he was swimming laps and I had to wait for him.\u00a0 In my mind I was being social.\u00a0 Clearly this relationship would not work if he got upset with me talking to other people.<\/p>\n
The next guy I dated from the biking weekend lived in Baltimore (an hour from DC).\u00a0 It turns out he had just gone through a messy divorce, had two kids and a busy job.\u00a0 We had a nice date, however, being marriage minded (remember I was 41 years old and time was precious) I knew it would be a long road with this guy and I would most likely have to move to Baltimore.\u00a0\u00a0 Our goals were not aligned.\u00a0 Also, he did not follow through in a consistent manner.\u00a0\u00a0 He was clearly not ready for a serious relationship.<\/p>\n
Alan was appeared marriage minded, focused on dating only me and followed through consistently.\u00a0 He did not appear to be dating anyone else.\u00a0 He seemed sincere in his sole interest in me.\u00a0 This is the double standard I had mentioned in my previous post.\u00a0 It is important for the guy to show singular interest for the woman so that the woman can feel safe to trust him.\u00a0 Also, in regards to exclusivity, I truly believe that it is best if the man brings up the subject and insists on it.\u00a0 I do know instances that women have brought it up first.<\/p>\n
Women, have you been dating several men or pining away for one guy that makes you more vulnerable?\u00a0 Men, are you able to show your sincere interest in one woman and stay focused on your desire to take it to the next level (with out being annoying)?\u00a0\u00a0 What has been your experience?\u00a0 What has worked best for you?<\/p>\n
In my next post I will discuss my most important Marriage Minded discussion you need to have if you want to see the relationship has the ability to move forward towards marriage in a timely pace.<\/p>\n
Intentionally yours,<\/p>\n
Coach Amy<\/p>\n
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