Here is this week\u2019s scary relationship problem to follow my Halloween Theme: you meet all sorts of people in dating.\u00a0 It\u2019s up to you to pick out worthy people to date who seem to be looking for a serious relationship.\u00a0 In there is lurking this insidious gremlin,\u201d How can I trust this person?\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 You have probably been disappointed by others in the past and why should the next person be any different?<\/p>\n
This is a hard gremlin to shake.\u00a0 Your hesitation to trust may have served you well to keep you safe and yet, where has it gotten you?\u00a0 This takes a lot of work to get beyond the fear and to give a good person a chance.\u00a0 As in any relationship, you do have to set your boundaries, though.\u00a0<\/p>\n
This is my relationship advice on trust.\u00a0 Trust must be earned.\u00a0 It is like a bank account that accumulates trust <\/em>money over time.\u00a0 However, if a person does something to lose your <\/em>trust, then you will most likely make an immediate withdrawal of your trust<\/em> funds!\u00a0\u00a0 So how can you start trusting someone?<\/p>\n My dating advice to you is to see how the person follows through on what they say.\u00a0 Is he reliable?\u00a0 He shows up on time (and if he is going to be late then he calls you to tell you so).\u00a0 He makes dates with you in advance and keeps the date.\u00a0\u00a0 Is he open about his life: friends, family, work, or his dating intentions?\u00a0 Can you talk about an issue without him changing the subject or invalidating your feelings?\u00a0 Is he easy to get a hold of and forthcoming about his plans?\u00a0<\/p>\n Eventually you do have to trust the person you are dating.\u00a0 What do your instincts say?\u00a0 If something is bothering you about a person, listen to your instincts.\u00a0 Trust is an integral component of an intimate serious relationship.\u00a0 Without trust, a relationship will not survive.\u00a0 Tread lightly if you must.\u00a0 Talk about your feelings around trust openly to your love relationship to gain a greater sense of security and deepen your intimacy.\u00a0<\/p>\n When I was dating after a divorce (where my trust in my husband was crushed in my first marriage), I acknowledged my how can I trust this person<\/em> gremlin, paid my respects to it and journeyed forth into dating, knowing that this gremlin had my back.<\/p>\n When does this gremlin come up for you?\u00a0 How have you managed dating despite this gremlin?\u00a0 What impact has trust had on your love relationships?<\/p>\n This inquiring relationship coach wants to know your answers to these relationship questions!\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Here is this week\u2019s scary relationship problem to follow my Halloween Theme: you meet all sorts of people in dating.\u00a0 It\u2019s up to you to pick out worthy people to date who seem to be looking for a serious relationship.\u00a0 In there is lurking this insidious gremlin,\u201d How can I trust this person?\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 You have […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n