Do you know what kind of person would make you happy? What qualities would you want someone you would want to marry have? As human beings, we all respond to certain gestures and behaviors positively. This dating advice for women and men are to describe which qualities you need to have on your radar screen when you are searching for a partner with whom you can have long term bliss. Keep in mind the following relationship issues as you evaluate someone as a Motivated to Marry™ Partner.
1. Offers you genuine friendship
Everyone wants someone who can be their best friend through thick and thin. We want someone with whom we can share our deepest thoughts as well as with whom we can have fun with.
2. Kindness and Compassion
What kind of heart does he or she have? Does he take in stray animals or does she volunteer to help the sick? And how forgiving is his or her nature? Is she kind to you and empathize with you when you’ve had a bad day?
3. Encouraging and Supportive
Our hope is that our partner becomes our greatest fan. Some dating tips for men include that you cheer her on during difficult times, and don’t forget to tell her you believe in her. She supports you by taking care of the kids at night while you go back to school.
4. A Sense of Being Understood
Being seen and being known is the biggest gift you can give someone. Actually hearing them and acknowledging that you’ve heard them is very powerful. The key relationship issue is acceptance of who we are is what we all strive for.
5. Being Appreciative
The ability to recognize when someone has gone out of your way or done something nice for you is a lost art. Just saying these simple words, “I appreciate what you have done” just makes someone’s day. One can never express too much appreciation! This is also important dating advice for women.
6. Ability to be Intimate:
Being willing to show your true self to another does take guts and trust. Making yourself vulnerable to another is not an everyday occurrence. Allowing someone to get to know you and love you just the way you are, for better or worse is not for the faint-hearted.
7. Respectful
Being able to remain respectful of another although you may not agree with the person does take a lot of class. It’s even harder to treat someone with respect when you are under stress. Always treat each other like delicate China where you can break your strong bond with the slip of a hurtful tongue. Nasty remarks and put downs are damaging to any relationship.
8. Open and willing to work on enhancing the relationship
Open and honest communication is the key to any relationship. As part of a couple, you need to be willing to listen to constructive comments and requests from your partner. It’s important to hear your partner’s side and visa versa. If you reach a deadlock without any viable solutions, be willing to seek help from an impartial third party to resolve major relationship issues.
9. Trustworthy
Trust is built over time and many positive encounters with someone. Does this person follow up when he/she says they will? Is this someone you have found you can count on? Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
10. Thinks and acts in a “we” manner, not a “me” manner
Does your potential partner think of how his or her actions will affect you? Are your thoughts and feelings taken into consideration? Is there a goal of compromise for the sake of the relationship? A relationship cannot survive on “me” alone!
To be in a relationship with an individual who is “divided” in his/her thinking with the “me” alone syndrome, only creates problems. Be on the lookout for someone who does not appear to be selfish or self-centered, but rather is willing to be sensitive to your feelings, desires, and needs. Additionally, it’s important that you also demonstrate this quality.
Suppose for example, that you have been dating someone for a considerable amount of time, and you’re now seriously considering if this individual could be “the one”. The two of you begin to discuss your finances. Carefully consider if the individual is discussing your future with a “me” alone approach to the finances, or is he/she including you in his/her future financial plans and goals? Hopefully your potential partner is thinking of you as a couple and making decisions accordingly. If he or she is excluding you in the decision-making, then you either need to discuss how you feel and see if the person understands your position. If for some reason this person continues to be self-oriented, then you may decide to move on.
Good luck with your search or your current relationship. If you are still looking, stay positive. He or she is out there waiting for you!
Best wishes for your dating and relationship endeavors!
Coach Amy
