Winter is here and you may have fantasies around being in a warm, tropic island, sipping pina coladas and relaxing that may be calling out to you. Or, how about an active ski vacation where you are skiing at a top ski resort with great apre ski activities? Or maybe you yearn for a more exotic vacation where you cruise along the Pacific Ocean to Thailand, Singapore and Vietnam? As a single person, I recommend you consider traveling with a singles’ group so you can meet great people while having the vacation of your dreams.
However, these are some things to think about and to consider when traveling with a singles’ group.
1. Do be friendly with everyone. You don’t know who is friendly with whom and people do talk on the trip. If you aren’t friendly, people will assume you don’t like them. It will get around that you are snob. Then people may not take the time to get to know you.
2. Do be inclusive and not exclusive. Do include others in your activities, meals and excursions. People will think more highly of you for being inclusive instead of excluding people.
3. Do go off with someone you have interest in to see a particular site, to do an activity or grab lunch together. This is so you can get to know them without peering from your peers!
4. Don’t hook up too soon. You can show interest without giving away the cow ! The goal is for the guy to follow up after the trip for dating. It’s very tempting to jump into a relationship when you like someone. I remember a friend who got dumped in the middle of a trip and it was very awkward for her during the rest of the trip.
5. Don’t leave your best friend out on her own unless you have an understanding. Your friends are there for you and if this doesn’t work out, you don’t want to lose a friend too!
What really matters is what happens when you get home from your trip. Does the guy follow up and want to make plans to see you again? Hopefully he (she) is not going back to a girlfriend (or boyfriend) back home. So build a good foundation for friendship, trust and respect on your trip and it will set the course for a possible beautiful courtship in the months ahead.
So what are your plans for vacation time this winter? Do you plan on traveling with a singles’ group or as a solo? Do you have a strategy for how you want to be on your trip? This curious coach would like to see your responses.
And if you are going away this winter, have a great trip!
Intentionally yours,
Coach Amy
PS. LIKE my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/motivatedtomarry. Perhaps you can share what group you are traveling with and get other marriage minded people to sign up for the same trip! I will also be posting travel singles’ groups that I feel are quality and get good reviews from my friends and clients.
In this day and age, we women can’t be too careful when it comes to safety. For single women traveling, this can be an even greater concern. We all love to get out and do things, go to parties, dine in our favorite restaurants, enjoy the theatre, any number of things. And there is no reason that we shouldn’t. Many of us love to travel, be it a business trip or vacation whether by plane, train, automobile, or boat.
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Safety tips would be most welcome.
Especially since women who are looking for relationships are encouraged to go out by themselves, but if you’re just meeting a man, you can’t tell what shenanigans he might be up to … and the cultural norm is for men to get visibly (and audibly) upset with you if you’re somewhat guarded, even though you two don’t know each other well enough to have earned each others’ trust.
It always strikes me as somewhat … odd … that men expect women to trust them by default, when you as a woman don’t yet have enough behavioral markers to be able to reasonably discern whether they’re trustworthy.
And yet, if a woman gets hurt because she trusts a man too soon, the general outcry from friends, family, and the culture is “Why did you trust him so soon?”
You can’t win either way.
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Yes, in this day and age we have to be advocates for our own sexual well being. And people are not always forthcoming about their situation because they don’t want to be eliminated from dating because of a condition that is usually not present like VD.
I don’t like to get into bashing one sex or the other. Marriage minded people don’t mind taking their time and getting it right this time. When someone gets serious,
they usually become more prudent. I do know those hopeless romantic guys who jump into a relationship very quickly. They tend to be very insecure and needy. Who is generalizing now! Thanks for sharing.
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