During the last couple of weeks you have communicated with someone of interest via emails and several telephone conversations. Then, there is obvious “phone chemistry” and a mutual interest in meeting each other. You both agree to meet in person -now for the moment of truth! Here are some rules of dating which can help you feel more comfortable and ultimately be more successful.
The first one of my rules of dating is to visualize success. Think about your wonderful attributes and not your faults. Take an inventory of your values, skills, talents, interests and “heart”. Leave all your negative thoughts at home.
Next, it is important to keep your expectations in check. Don’t start imagining yourself at the altar with your date. I recommend you ask yourself these 3 questions: Do I like the person? Does the conversation flow easily with one another? Is there any kind of attraction? That’s it. If you answer yes to these questions, then I recommend you be open to seeing the person again.
Another one of my rules of dating is to dress appropriately for a date. Be presentable, neat, well-groomed and in casual dress clothes. Don’t come in a t-shirt and jeans for men and for women, do not come dressed to kill by looking overly sexy like you are going to a nightclub. Strive to look like the guy or girl next door and someone who would be comfortable to bring home to their parents.
One of the key rules I recommend is to use your values as your guideposts. Know what’s most important to you in life and look to see if your date has similar feelings. Pay close attention to anything that makes you uncomfortable-your gut is usually right!
And last, remember the golden rule to always be courteous and kind to your date (even if you are not interested). You never know where you will see him or her again and who his or her friends are. Always treat people the way you wish to be treated
By keeping these rules of dating in mind, you will have a more pleasant dating experiences overall, and find yourself more comfortable with the dating process and can lead you to a successful relationship!
Intentionally yours,
Coach Amy
