When you meet someone you really like and you seem to click, would you drop your plans with your friends or others to spend the time with that new special person? My marriage minded advice is to NOT break your plans and to keep your prior commitments.
Especially if you are in the beginning months of a new relationship. I recommend you keep your plans with your friends. The right person will appreciate you keeping your commitments to your friends and family. This is what happened with Alan and me. I had made plans to go to a singles weekend with my girlfriend. Alan had planned his summer vacation to a trip to Canada. He wanted me to go with him. First of all, the timing would not have worked for me. And second, I had made a commitment to my girlfriend to go to this weekend with her and I wouldn’t want to disappoint her.
Alan and I were now dating for two months and not yet officially dating each other exclusively. What Alan and I agreed was that we would go – no strings attached – on our respective trips. When we came back, if we both felt the same way, we would begin dating exclusively. However, we were both free to explore during our time apart.
So I went on the weekend to the beach and had a good time- but there was no one of interest there. My girlfriend and I had a fun weekend of sightseeing, shopping, dancing and hanging out at the beach.
Alan had a good trip as well with a nice group of people. When he returned, he called me. He had a very special gift of unique jewelry from Canada. I knew he had thought of me. Sometime a little distance can put perspective on a relationship. We both had no doubt we would be dating each other exclusively like we agreed. However, being the marriage minded person that I was, I clearly specified my terms to this exclusivity.
What would you need to feel comfortable with being exclusive in a relationship as a marriage minded person? What has been your experience with sticking with your plans with others vs. breaking them to be with someone special? This curious coach looks forward to your comments.
The story continues…..
Intentionally yours,
Coach Amy
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