Many of my clients and singles that I talk to are apprehensive about the holidays. First, they would really like to find love and not have to go through the holidays as a solo. They are not really looking forward to celebrating the holidays with their family and enduring their family member’s inquisition about their love life. Besides, Aunt Jane has not been in the dating world for over 30 years!
Also, a recent comment I heart from a female client is that they don’t want to be a “third” wheel to their married friends. Another difficult situation is that it is hard to be around affectionate couples this time a year and it only brought home what they truly desired and how elusive it seems. What she really wants is to find love and be in a romantic relationship.
Nonetheless, for the holidays, with proper planning, you can have a happy holiday season. Here are my top suggestions:
1. With regards to your family gatherings, you can head those nosey (and well meaning) family members by making it be known that this is not a topic you want to be discussed and that you are here to enjoy the holidays with them.
2. Plan meaningful time with your single friends and go to fun activities that you will enjoy such as a movie, a play or concert.
3. Find singles parties to attend. There are many groups that offer them this time of year for the purpose of having singles to find love.
4. Plan to be with warm and supportive people. Stay away from negative, judgmental, scrooge-like people! Be with family and friends who you enjoy their company.
5. Volunteer with people to help others who are less fortunate. You will feel good about yourself and will meet other giving people. They may know someone to introduce you to!
These are some great ways to have a fun and fulfilling holiday season. Isn’t that what the holidays are all about appreciating those in your life and spending time with them? And possibly this may be the time that you find love. Personally, I found the holidays a great time to meet men who where not attached!
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family and friends!
Warm Wishes,
Coach Amy
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“Stay away from negative, judgmental, scrooge-like people!”
You know, it’s funny how often those can turn up in your family tree.
But if you elect not to spend time with them, because they’ve chosen to try to pursue topics you have asked be set aside time and time and time again … all of a sudden *you* are the witchy, evil person with no holiday or family spirit.
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Toxic people always will say negative things about you. So you have to put boundaries around yourself to keep you safe. We sometimes have to spend time with family that is not of our choosing. There are ways to limit such time- and then find a place and people who are more accepting and loving.
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