When a client says, “Online dating doesn’t work for me,” my answer is, “Not Yet!”
I understand why they’re telling me this. Online dating can be very frustrating. You need to know what to avoid and how best to use this tool for pinpointing your true love partner.
I’m very positive about online dating. You see over 80% of my successfully coupled clients have met through online dating. That is only after they seek my help and I show them the way to get better results. (I’ve been helping singles find their true love for over 18 years! So, this isn’t just luck.)
1. So, when you tell me that, “online dating doesn’t work for me”, the first thing I do is try to find out why online dating isn’t working for you!
- Are you clear about your life goals?
- Have you communicated your goals online?
- Are you sharing your top values and what’s important to you?
- Are your profile pictures appealing? (No selfies or bare chests, guys, or overly exposed cleavage, ladies!)
- Is your profile complete or sparse? Are you leaving out important information about yourself?
- Are you clear about your goal for dating, and is it obvious to anyone who reads your profile?
- Is your age range realistic? (Are you trying to date 20 years younger?)
- Is your profile a laundry list of all the things you don’t want in a partner?
- Moreover, are you omitting the key things from your profile that will attract the right person?
If online dating isn’t working for you (yet), then consider this…
2. Are you open and available for dating? This means:
- Do you have the time to follow up with potential partners? Or do you only check the site once a week or once a month?
- Do you know how to engage in the messaging to keep it going and move it to the next step?
- Do you have time to chat on the phone or by video with someone?
- When they ask you out, is your calendar filled up through next month?
- Do you cut out good potential partners because of unimportant things such as they don’t play pickleball? (You can play with other people, right?)
- Are you willing to try multiple sites to increase your odds of meeting someone wonderful?
3. The other things to look at are: how you’re evaluating people and if you’re setting appropriate boundaries that’ll keep you safe.
- How critical or judgmental are you being? Are you cutting out good people?
- Do you know the social norms for dating or are you clueless?
- Can you carry a conversation and do you ask your date questions that show your interest in who they are as a person?
- Do you go out with everyone or do you have criteria to maintain your standards on how you want to be treated, namely with respect?
When someone says, “Online dating doesn’t work for me,” this tells me they may not have the knowledge, skill, and understanding to take advantage of this resource that provides hundreds of potential partners to them.
You need to know how to look for the right person and also how to present your profile in a way that will attract your ideal life partner. I’m sure you know many couples who’ve met online. So, if they can do it, why can’t you?
I encourage you to not give up hope. Keep working it. Timing is everything in online dating and your time will come.
If you follow my advice and get some support around dating online and in person, eventually, you’ll succeed like 80% of my successfully coupled clients have with online dating!
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