Do you find that at singles events you only meet other women?

29 June 2012

My best friend who lives in Southern Florida is in her early 50’s and is ready to start dating again after losing a partner to a brain tumor.   She mentioned to me that she is frustrated with the singles scene since she says the singles events and Meetups she attends are almost 70% women.  She feels it’s very competitive and if there is a decent guy, all the women are vying for his attentions.

I told her that when she goes to these singles events, you don’t know if someone wants a serious relationship or is a player (unless it’s a Marriage Minded Meetup!).

And yes, it’s okay to get out of the house and socialize with groups and activities.  I made some of my closest girlfriends (and guy friends) when I participated in social activities groups such as the ski club, a bowling league and a biking group.

However, I recommended that she start dating online since she is looking for specific attributes that match her own and you can search for someone who appears to be serious about finding a relationship.

Online dating allows her to peruse men’s profiles and seek out those seriously minded men who share her values, interests and life goals.   It’s a one to one medium and she doesn’t have to stand by the dance floor waiting for a guy to make the first move.

The baby boomers have adopted online dating and see the benefits that it presents:

  • You can search online 24/7 when it fits your busy schedule.  This works well if you have a demanding job or if you are a single parent.
  • If offers convenience where you can meet a large number available, single people all from your home or office! You can be meeting people even when you are traveling away from home.
  • You get a lot of information about a person upfront that could take you months to find out.
  • You won’t get bowled over by physical chemistry up front that could happen by meeting face to face first that could cloud your judgment if someone is actually a good fit with you.
  • Online dating offers an efficient use of time and money. You have access to hundreds of people who share your relationship goals and can get several dates where as going to singles events can be costly with no tangible dates resulting.

And yes, there are pitfalls for online dating too.  However, the pros really outweigh the cons if you can learn how to navigate around the negatives of online dating.

As you can see, I am bullish about online dating.  At my recommendation my girlfriend is taking my Successful Internet Dating Program (www.SuccessfulInternetDatingProgram.com) and working through the 6 modules program of weekly audio lessons, worksheets, added handouts and a written transcript for each audio.

I expect her to be dating in full swing very soon.  Here she is getting my exact system I use to help my clients date effectively online and meet quality people for a serious relationship.  Over 2/3 of my clients have met their serious partners and spouses online.

The one thing I admire about my girlfriend is her drive to be in a committed relationship.  I know that she will continue her journey and fine-tune her approach.  Dating takes diligence, focus and perseverance! That is what you need to be successful online and off-line.

Have you tried online dating?  What are your frustrations?  What do you like best about online dating?  This curious coach would like to know!

 

Warmly,

Coach Amy

 

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