Recently The Washington Post had an article on how dating online is a better way to meet a serious romantic partner than some other past traditional ways.
My advice for dating includes the participation in online dating as any total dating strategy. I do have some dating tips for men and women on how to improve their profiles and who they attract through online dating. For my one on one coaching clients and my coaching group clients, I review their online dating profiles. I see the same mistakes being made time and time again.
Here is my list of top online dating mistakes and my dating tips for men and women on how to improve their online dating profiles and attract the right person:
1. Posting bad pictures or no pictures at all.
It’s amazing how poor pictures are. It doesn’t have to be a glamour shot, just something attractive to show your best features. A smile goes a long way!
2. Sounding too demanding and controlling in tone.
I read profiles that say “He must be such and such” or “She should do such and such”. The person comes across as too demanding and controlling. Try softening your approach to “It would be great if….”. By softening up your tone, you will be more attractive to more people.
3. Limiting their distance range too much
I see people put 20 miles in their distance range. What if Mr. Right lived 100 miles away? That’s a 2 hour drive and doable for the weekends. More distance would give you a greater number of candidates. You can weed down from there. Ok, perhaps he lives next door, or not!
4. Not being upfront about what they are truly looking for in a relationship.
It’s amazing that most people are scared to put they want marriage and kids. If that’s what you are looking for- then say it! By putting friends, companion, exclusive relationship, you are attracting people who have different relationship goals from you. Take a stand for what you want and it will work for you!
5. Not writing in full sentences, typos and poor grammar.
Yes, in this txt world we are all guilty of this! Show you are educated and know how to write! Write in full sentences and check your grammar. Also when writing your answers, ask yourself the question, “So what?” Explain what was special about the trip you took or the book you’ve read. Let them see the real you!
If you implement my advice for dating by polishing your online dating profile, then you will better your chance to attract the right person. For all of my clients I clarify their values and make sure their core relationship values shine through in their online dating profile. This has been instrumental for all of my clients who have been successful with meeting someone. They become more confident in their abilities to choose the right people.
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