For my teleclass this week “A New Way of  Thinking about the Internet Dating as a Way to Find True Love” we had about sixty people on the call.  I discussed the top online dating mistake that I find that most of my clients are guilty of:  Not making enough time and space for a significant relationship in their life.

Why is that a dating mistake?  Because people perceive you as being too busy for them and that’s a huge turnoff.  No one wants to feel like they are being squeezed into their schedule.  My Online Dating Advice to my clients is to make the time for this endeavor.  Schedule it into their calendar as they would any other of their commitments.  Your suitor would like to see that you have the time to build a personal relationship!  That is why my now husband did not ask me out for a second date when we first met five years prior!

For those who were on the call, I am sorry that the audio sound quality was not a 100%.  I have not had that experience before and I have been using this service for a while.  Thank you for bearing with it and sticking it out.

To find our about the Successful Internet Dating program go to www.successfulinternetdatingprogram.com is the website. If you have trouble accessing the site, then try to copy and paste the url into your browser.

Note that there is a valuable bonus if you sign up by midnight 11/20/11 EST.  You will be able to attend my two live Questions and Answers phone sessions in December and January.  So don’t delay.  I promise that my six week Successful Internet Dating program will make a positive difference in your online dating and your dating, overall.

Also, the special VIP Flagship launch price of the program is available until 11/20/11.

I look forward to working with you to meet that special someone- sooner than later.

Warm Wishes,

Coach Amy

P.S. If you missed the teleclass and want to brave listening to the recording (My voice is cut off every few minutes), sign up at www.successfulinternetdatingteleclass.com and you will get an email with the link of the replay.

If you ever have felt like you are the only one who has put a lot of time and energy into finding true committed love and not getting the results you desire, you are not alone!

The survey I did last week reveals some of the main challenges that singles struggle with.  Over half of you want to know where to meet quality singles who are looking for a serious relationship and 55% of you want to know how to connect with singles to get a date.

Over 90 % of you have tried online dating as a way to meet people.  However, most of you are not meeting the kinds of people you are interested in dating online and many have given up trying!

58% claim that you are having trouble getting actual dates from online dating and 42% acknowledge having difficulty screening out undesirable candidates.

The good news is there is no reason to stay stuck.  Two-thirds of my clients have met their spouses and life partners online. Now, I will be showing you how you can do this too!

Join me for this FREE teleclass:

Discover a New Way of Thinking about Internet Dating as a Way to Find Your True Love!

Date and Time: Tuesday, November 15th, at 9 pm EST (6 pm PST)

In this complimentary one-hour teleclass I will be sharing:

• The biggest mistakes people make when dating online
• My secret online dating tips for what really works and what doesn’t
• One of the biggest assumptions singles make that costs them precious time and energy.
• The #1 best way to find quality people to date online.
• Details about my upcoming “ Successful Internet Dating Program:  “How to Find True Love Online with Less Time and Heartache”

Learn more and reserve your spot now at http://www.successfulinternetdatingteleclass.com

(If you can’t attend the live event, be sure to register because I will be sharing the recording afterwards)

What kind of information would you like to see me cover in this free teleclass?  What are your biggest dating challenges?  Please add your comments below.

Intentionally Yours,

Amy

P.S. If you have been dating online, which is a MUST DO for most of my clients,  and are not finding quality people to date, you don’t want to miss this teleclass! http://www.successfulinternetdatingteleclass.com

The conversations I have been having with all my clients who are actively seeking a relationship is get online now!  I consider the late September and early October open season!  Let me tell you why I am suggesting this as one of my online dating tips?

Now people are back from their vacations, travels and have their kids back to school (college for some). The summer has ended and if you haven’t found your heart’s content, then you are most likely very motivated to make some effort on meeting people to date currently.  Given the numbers, you need to be online searching for love.  Time and time again, I hear online dating success stories from both my clients, friends and colleagues.

It would be ideal to meet someone before the Christmas holidays.  You may not want to take someone home to meet the family for Thanksgiving.  However, it would be nice to have a serious romantic interest for late December holidays and definitely New Years Eve.

So currently I consider it open season, meaning that many people are going back online to find love.  Therefore, it is a very important time to have your online dating profile updated and get active again.  One of my other online dating tips is make time for you to work on the online dating process a couple times a week.  It’s time to get into action!

What I notice from those of my clients that do succeed is that they do not give up.  The dating world takes fortitude.  These are my valuable online dating tips for you today!

Intentionally yours,

Coach Amy

PS.  If you live in the DC area and you are marriage minded, join my Meetup Group at http://budurl.com/DCMMGroup.   Meet other marriage minded singles for friendship and dating!  For those outside of the DC area, sign up on my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/marriagemindedsinglesdeclared.  Order your free red bracelet there today and declare to the world you are marriage minded!

In a recent coaching session with one of my clients, Marilyn, an attractive late 40’s client, had just begun online dating with a matching site where they give you several matches per day.  There she was with over 20 matches in front of her.   She was overwhelmed!

Marilyn has a very full life with a demanding job, family responsibilities, and fulfilling community work.   Being the nice person that she is, she felt she had to respond to everyone who was matched up with her.  It was hard for her to say no!  What if she passed over someone good?

One of my online tips for dating was to institute a system where she rated her matches A, B or C.  “A” candidates are a very good match where they share her values, have similar life goals, have the kind of profession she respects and lives within a 25 mile radius.   She set up the criteria, not me!  The “B” person may be those who had the first 3 criteria and may live over 50 miles away.   And “C’s” have none of what she was looking for.

I could see that Marilyn needed permission to nix the C’s.  I told her let go of the C’s (thus opening her up for some new, better potential matches).   Another of my online dating tips I gave her was that she needs to initiate the contact with her A matches.  Being brought up as a lady, she thought, “Isn’t the guy the one to initiate?”  I told her given the online dating set up, it was okay if she initiated.  However, the guy would need to respond in a timely fashion and then take the initiative if he was truly interested and a worthwhile candidate.

How do you manage your time with online dating?  Do you get overwhelmed with the amount of people to weed through and who you want to respond to?   What are your online dating tips for using a system that works for you?   I love to hear your comments.

Intentionally,

Coach Amy

PS.  If you want to learn more about how to date online more effectively and with greater success, join me for my upcoming tele-coaching program starting in July.  Earlybird price is in effect.  Details at http://www.attractqualitypeopletodateonline.com.  This group currently has 10 slots available.

There has been a recent flurry of news coverage around a Californian woman who has a case against Match.com for her sexual assault by one of its members.

As a dating and relationship coach that helps my clients with their internet dating strategy and one of my online dating tips is that one has to take their own precautions.  You can meet people anywhere like singles events and meet unsafe people.  I once had a guy stalk me after meeting me at a happy hour!  For what you are paying to join an online dating site, they cannot afford to do background checks.  Perhaps the sites can be added as an extra service that would require an additional fee. And many  dating services and matchmakers often perform background checks on their members  – although they may not have the sheer numbers to offer you that online dating sites do.  One matchmaker told me that it’s very easy for someone to get under the radar even with background checks.

I know too many people including a large percentage of my clients who met their spouses online to say it’s too dangerous to do online dating and give up the effort all together.  It’s a shame that one or a couple of bad apples are scaring people away from online dating.

One of my online dating tips is for my clients do a Google search and even hire their own PI if they start dating someone for both online and offline dating.  I have seen several instances where nice people where bamboozled, although not life threatening.  Also, you can check them out on Linked In and see if anyone you are connected with knows this person, especially if you are dating in your local area.  Another one of my online dating tips is you want to take your time before meeting someone (have several email exchanges and a couple of phone calls first).  I don’t know if this woman in the news did her due diligence before meeting this guy.

As they used to say on Hill Street Blues, “Be careful out there”!

Intentionally yours,

Coach Amy

PS.  To learn the right way to be online by joining my upcoming Internet Dating Success tele-coaching group at www.attractqualitypeopletodateonline.com.  Save $200 by signing up now.